I explained that feeling angry is a normal human emotion, and in many cases, it is justifiable to feel angry. However, acting out in anger is almost always a bad idea, and often times will cause much damage. Looking back into my life, I can honestly say that I regret acting angry in every circumstance. I can’t think of a single time that acting out in anger had a positive effect in my life. All I ever accomplished was to hurt myself, hurt others, damage relationships, break things, and lose credibility with people. Even though feeling angry may have been justified, acting in anger rarely, if ever, produces any positive results.
How do I take 30+ years of adult experience and explain it to an eight year old?? Hmmmm… That’s tough… I think I explained it well, but I have no way to help him gain control of his actions, other than to say there will be disciplinary consequences to his actions if he makes poor choices in response to his anger. Deterrents work, but I’d love for him to gain wisdom without having to suffer any consequences. Unfortunately, I don’t think that is the norm when dealing with human nature…
I’m going to post a few photos from the military today. God speed to our forces in harm’s way, and thank you for your service!! Click on any image to see a larger version...
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PACIFIC OCEAN (Jan. 29, 2010) Lt. j.g. John Sines, a damage control assistant aboard the Los Angeles-class attack submarine USS Santa Fe (SSN 763), uses a Global Positioning System to plot the ship's location while transiting the Pacific Ocean. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Ronald Gutridge/Released)
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PACIFIC OCEAN (Jan. 29, 2010) Sailors pilot the Los Angeles-class attack submarine USS Santa Fe (SSN 763) while transiting the Pacific Ocean. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Ronald Gutridge/Released)
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PACIFIC OCEAN (Jan. 29, 2010) Lt. j.g. John Sines, left, damage control assistant, and Lt. Andres Aviles, navigation operation officer, scan the horizon through periscopes aboard the attack submarine USS Santa Fe (SSN 763) searching for contacts during a transit of the Pacific Ocean. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Ronald Gutridge/Released)
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BAHRAIN (Feb. 1, 2010) Explosive Ordnance Disposal Technician 2nd Class Robert Ganger, assigned to Explosive Ordnance Disposal Mobile Unit (EODMU) 11 fires his 9mm Pistol at a military shooting range in Bahrain. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Daniel Edgington/Released)
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BAIE DE GRAND GOAVE, Haiti (Feb. 3, 2010) A CH-53E Super Stallion helicopter assigned to Marine Heavy Helicopter Squadron (HMH) 461 prepares to land aboard the multi-purpose amphibious assault ship USS Bataan (LHD 5). (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 1st Class W. B. Swoboda/Released)
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PACIFIC OCEAN (Feb. 3, 2010) A T-45C Goshawk training aircraft assigned to Training Air Wing (TRAWING) 1 prepares to land aboard the Nimitz-class aircraft carrier USS John C. Stennis (CVN 74). John C. Stennis is underway off the coast of Southern California supporting pilot carrier qualifications for naval air training command. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 3rd Class Kenneth Abbate/Released)
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USS BONHOMME RICHARD (Feb. 3, 2010) Marines assigned to the 11th Marine Expeditionary Unit (11th MEU) wash down a vehicle in the well deck of the amphibious assault ship USS Bonhomme Richard (LHD 6). Bonhomme Richard is the command platform for the Bonhomme Richard Amphibious Ready Group supporting maritime security operations in the U.S. 5th Fleet area of responsibility. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Eva-Marie Ramsaran/Released)
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PEARL HARBOR, Hawaii (Jan. 27, 2010) Sonar Technician (Submarine) 3rd Class George Athan, right, and Sonar Technician Submarine 3rd Class Jonathan Booker assemble a deck skid used for weapons handling aboard the Virginia-class attack submarine USS Texas (SSN 775). Texas is the second Virginia-class attack submarine to be home ported at Naval Station Pearl Harbor. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Ronald Gutridge/Released)
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ATLANTIC OCEAN (Feb. 4, 2010) The guided-missile cruiser USS Bunker Hill (CG 52) performs maneuvers with the littoral combat ship USS Freedom (LCS 1) and the Nimitz-class aircraft carrier USS Carl Vinson (CVN 70). Bunker Hill and Carl Vinson are taking part in Southern Seas 2010 as part of a scheduled homeport shift. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Daniel Barker/Released)
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U.S. Air Force Tech. Sgt. Kevin Owen sits on the ramp of a C-17 Globemaster III aircraft while flying over the mountains of Afghanistan after an airdrop mission, Feb. 2, 2010. Owen is a loadmaster assigned to the 816th Expeditionary Airlift Squadron. The aircraft's crew dropped 34 container bundles to an undisclosed base in Afghanistan as part of a combat resupply mission. U.S. Air Force photo by Staff Sgt. Angelita Lawrence
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An F-22 Raptor piloted by Maj. David Skalicky flies over Langley Air Force Base, Va., Feb. 3, 2010. Major Skalicky is with the F-22 Raptor Demonstration Team. (U.S. Air Force photo/Senior Airman Zachary Wolf)
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GROTON, Connecticut (Feb. 3, 2010) The Los Angeles-class attack submarine USS Philadelphia (SSN 690) pulls into Submarine Base New London after returning from her final deployment. Philadelphia is set to be inactivated at a ceremony later this year. (U.S. Navy photo by John Narewski/Released)
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PACIFIC OCEAN (Feb. 4, 2010) Aviation Boatswain's Mate (Handling) Airman Terrence Wever, from Charleston, S.C., directs a T-45C Goshawk from Training Wing 2 to a catapult aboard the Nimitz-class aircraft carrier USS John C. Stennis (CVN 74). Stennis is underway off the coast of southern California in support of pilot carrier qualifications for naval air training command. (U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Kyle Steckler/Released)
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Staff Sgt. Brandilen Leary switches off power to a C-130 Hercules after completing the post-flight radar and navigation systems check Jan. 27, 2010, at Muniz Air Base, Puerto Rico. Sergeant Leary is a 35th Expeditionary Airlift Squadron communications/navigation technician from the 302nd Airlift Wing, Peterson Air Force Base, Colo. (U.S. Air Force photo/Master Sgt. Stan Coleman)
1 comments:
I came upon your blog because I was searching for news about the Bonhomme Richard. My son is currently a Marine on that ship. I hadn't seen the picture you posted, so thank you. Regarding your son. . . what a great thing you are doing as a father. Yes, a difficult concept for an eight year old, but you are giving him the tools to cope with these emotions. I heard a well-respected child psychologist and father say, "boys have one negative emotion--anger." He also said that their anger is most often expressed with aggression. (I have two sons and agree.) He said that one way we can help our sons is to validate their emotions (exactly what you did) and to give them other names for negative emotions, like disappointment, frustration, anxiety, pain, etc. His advice has been both insightful and helpful to me, I hope it helps you. Keep up the good work as a dad and I wish you well on your new business endeavor!
Sincerely,
Sheila
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